Do we bring on 'bad luck' due to a negative attitude or is it just 'fate'?

you have experienced a lot of horrible things in your life...an abusive father..that made you lose self esteem and maybe because you had such a low self esteem you went just for the kind of guys who were treating you in a disrespectful and abusive way...you went into those relationships and your self esteem was low and you thought ''I don't deserve better'' or if you felt ''I deserve better'' you put up for a while with the abuse from those guys you dated and that was a vicious cycle that repeated itself over and over again...because you did not feel you deserved better and because you allowed those ''a s s h oles'' to abuse you..that is why it happend...if now you have gained self esteem and you work on your self esteem and you learnede to like yourself..that is very very important..you need to at least like yourself...if not love yourself but you really have to believe ''I am a good person, i am a nice person I deserve people to treat me with respect, I deserve a guy who loves me and whom I can trust and who treats me with respect..I will not allow myself to settle for anything less...I will treat other people with respect and I will become more assertive...and self confident...I will be friendly but i will not let others walk all over me...if you feel that...then it shows in your body language it shows in how you interact with other people and if you have gained that belief and that inner confidence and you know ''I am worthy of being treated well by a guy..'' I am not putting up with any abusive guy ever again...'' then most likely you will attract a better set of guys as your self confidence will not allow you to be a ''victim'' again...so you can learn this even more..by taking baby steps..but learn to believe in yourself and learn to know you are worthy of better...believe in your qualities.. you are as good as all the rest of us..so why should you settle for abuse and crap? NO! X